A challenge we all struggle with daily is: “How do I get people – including myself – to do what I want?”
How Do You Respond To Expectations?
In this video I talk about the Four Tendencies, aka four personality types that categorise how we respond to the expectations we set for ourselves (e.g. new years resolutions, building daily habits), or that others set for us (deadlines, requests from family or friends).
What Is The “Four Tendencies Framework”?
Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behaviour, so understanding this framework lets us make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress and burnout, and engage more effectively.
External expectations are goals others give us, such as project deadlines, or a request from a friend.
What Are The Four Tendencies?
👉 Upholder: “I do what others expect of me—and what I expect from myself.”
👉 Obliger: “I do what I have to do. I don’t want to let others down, but I may let myself down.”
👉 Questioner: “I do what I think is best, according to my judgment. If it doesn’t make sense, I won’t do it.”
👉 Rebel: “I do what I want, in my own way. If you try to make me do something—even if I try to make myself do something—I’m less likely to do it.”
Which One Am I?
And with your results, she will tell you what strategies will work best for you, or for working with anyone else with that personality type.